A blog of this sort would typically belong on my other site, but since I feel like most people are aware of NFP, it’s a public enough topic to be discussed here.
NFP typically is synonymous with “surprise” babies. Not shockingly, NFP gets a bad rep among most. Yet, if you’re married in the Catholic church, it is the form of birth control that the church preaches. While DH and I were going through pre-cana (the required pre-marriage classes the church requires you to take), NFP was drilled as the way to go. But then they had the “endorsers” speak. By this own married couple’s admission, they had two–TWO unplanned children by NFP. Yes, in retrospect, they were blessings and part of God’s plan, yada, yada, yada. But M and I did not leave that talk reassured that NFP could work.
SPOILER ALERT: we were wrong!
Fast forward a couple of years, and a missing gallbladder later. I had been on and off of BC pills since the age of 14 due to hormonal imbalances that lead to ovarian cysts. But once I found out that the pill might have been responsible for my gallbladder self-destructing by the time I was 24, mixed with the expense of the pill (since my prescription insurance sucked) and random disliked side-effects, I had a nice sit-down talk with DH about NFP.
There are various forms of NFP that combine well with Fertility Awareness Methods (FAM). The Marquette Method is one of them. After a lot of discussion (as we wanted the best odds of protection possible) we settled on a combination of the Marquette Method with the Symptothermal Method. Although it required some work on my part (more so than remembering to take a pill at the same time every day), I actually enjoyed NFP a lot more than I anticipated. For starters, I learned a TON about my body. Despite having hormonal abnormalities, I learned that my body was still working the way it should…just on a random schedule. Additionally, when both parties are committed to NOT having a baby at that point in time, it becomes a lot easier to resist one another.
But the main reason I’ve become an advocate for NFP is 33.5 weeks old. Had it not been for NFP and the knowledge I gained from it, I don’t think we would have gotten pregnant as quickly as we did. After 1.5 years of successfully preventing, we were ready to start a family. Despite being told that if we wanted to try naturally that we’d essentially be playing “roulette,” we got pregnant the first month. I cannot tell you how many times DH and I have looked at one another in disbelief at our incredible luck (even still!!). As our due date approaches, I cannot help being thankful for the path we took.
So, when we say that we were “surprised” we got pregnant when we did, we’re always referring to the ease with which it happened…NOT that we’re surprised that it did happen. I mean, we were there. ;D We knew what we were getting into. We just didn’t realize it would happen so fast, especially after years of hearing we’d need fertility treatment.
As we learned in December, life can surprise you in positive ways.