I was working out in the gym this morning, and this book was being discussed on the Early Show. It’s all about how pet names (like honey, babe, love, etc.) can actually be detrimental to your relationship. The authors claim that these terms of endearment seep into our brains, and taint our view of our significant other to create a platonic view of that person.
Apparently, a lot of bad habits start coming in to play when you start using androgynous pet names–at least, according to these authors. These habits occur because we are TOO comfortable with our significant other. Although I’m a little suspicious of the validity of this book, I guess I can agree that there are plenty of bad habits that form when one is comfortable with their spouse (ugh, bodily gasses are a major turnoff).
But, I’m not running out to buy this book just yet. I’ve been calling my DH “honey” almost since we started dating 8 years ago. Calling him by his first name might allow me to recognize his masculinity, but it also seems so formal…
Am I dooming my intimate life? Eh, I think not. I’ll keep calling him “honey” (and maybe throw in a few first names) as long as he keeps the bathroom door shut when he’s doing his business.
However, in case that doesn’t work…here’s my reminder:
I, ________, take you ________, to be my husband. I promise to be true to you, in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health. I will love you and honor you, all the days of my life.